Choosing Not to Make a Decision is Still Making a Decision

In motivation by Michael Michelini14 Comments

Spent last night making USA calls, to suppliers, clients, accountant(s) (yes, I work with 2…), trademark attorney, parents, and tried to catch some friends. Just this time difference (12 hours ahead here in Beijing timezone) makes it harder and harder to stay in touch with my friends on the other side of the globe.

I have been in Asia almost 4 years now, and I used to not mind doing China daytime work and USA nighttime work (which is mostly USA phone calls)…but it wears you down. And as I get more and more clients and relations here in China, I have to build those relationships, by spending time at dinner and drinks with them. And on top of that my hyperactive traveling. I feel myself getting less and less connected to America.

Maybe this is what I wanted, I was always afraid of the future of the American economy, and a big driver of why I came out to China in the first place was for business opportunity and long term growth. In one way, I had hoped I was wrong, I don’t like to see America declining more and more…

As this blog title states, many people choose to ignore making a decision, to delay a decision, but by deciding to not make a decision is a decision in itself.

Sure, it is hard to make a decision, there is fear of making a mistake. There are so many moving variables in life. Many people want, or hope, others will make decisions for them. But that too is a decision.

And I have made the decision to be in Asia, to build my career, my business here. And my friend Sarah left a facebook post on my wall today, which sparked this post:

Sarah Zakarevicis –> Michael Michelini
Sarah: Reminds me of you!
me: nice it is inspiring! have a blog pot topic for it

So, obviously this got my attention, Sarah is a good friend from Jerzzzzy, and has known my through my travels and struggles since I moved out of New York City in early 2007.

Here are the lyrics, I’ll highlight the interesting points that maybe Sarah felt reminded me of her:

OneRepublic – Good Life

Woke up in London yesterday
Found myself in the city near Piccadilly
Don’t really know how I got here
I got some pictures on my phone

New names and numbers that I don’t know
Address to places like Abbey Road
Day turns to night, night turns to whatever we want
We’re young enough to say

Oh this has gotta be the good life
This has gotta be the good life
This could really be a good life, good life

Say oh, got this feeling that you can’t fight
Like this city is on fire tonight
This could really be a good life
A good, good life

To my friends in New York, I say hello
My friends in L.A. they don’t know
Where I’ve been for the past few years or so
Paris to China to Col-or-ado

Sometimes there’s airplanes I can’ t jump out
Sometimes there’s bullshit that don’t work now
We are god of stories but please tell me-e-e-e
What there is to complain about

When you’re happy like a fool
Let it take you over
When everything is out
You gotta take it in

I feel like there might be something that I’ll miss
I feel like the window closes oh so quick
I’m taking a mental picture of you now
‘Cuz hopelessly
The hope is we have so much to feel good about

Yes, reading the lyrics I get to understand the song so much more (you know how you listen to songs and never catch the lyrics and true meaning of the song), yeap I’m a big traveler always on the road. Seems this is what everyone thinks of me, but hey its the life I love and glad that what I am, want to be seen as, are connecting.

To wrap up the post, at least I am

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  1. the name of the song is This is the life. why can’t show last comment??

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      i think because you are using a different email or username to post comments Yang, thats why I had to re-approve your comments this time.

  2. This is def your life Mikey! Xoxo jerzzzzzey! Love it!

  3. Mike- I really enjoyed reading this. I find myself being introspective these days reviewing the decisions I have made in my life. I do regret a few (like my1st marriage) but, I realize that I had to experience that to get where I am today. You’re so right that every action we do is a decision. I must admit that I do over think my decisions but, it’s a typical virgo trait that I can’t shake off. I do think of you from time to time even though we’re not in contact that often. Hopefully I’ll see you in Oct. Take Care.

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      Hey Norn,
      glad you liked this post, i think i was kinda scatter brained when i wrote it so im glad it made sense to you, hehe

      yea we have talked in the past about your regrets in first marriage…..come on… we said, (i think it was over beers at “nice guy eddies” in manhattan lower east side) that whether good or bad, all our life decisions have helped shape us to be the person we are today, and we need to look forward not backward.

      im an aries, the opposite for virgo i guess then, i rush decisions and try to ram it though….agressive….but this gets me in trouble a lot, as we can follow along on the blog here….but just keep pushing forward, cant live life looking in the rear view mirror.

      yes, i hope to see u in palawan in october, cant wait to blog all about it too. life is amazing

  4. great song – thanks mike and sarah 🙂 interesting look at life

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      Yea, talked to Sarah via USA text messages, she also said she thought of me because the cities mentioned in the song are:


      And those are my regular stops.

      But life is meant to be INTERESTING

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