After USA Trip, Made New Business, Maybe Lost Some Old Friends

In family friends, travel by Michael Michelini8 Comments

Been almost a week now since leaving America, and I can’t help but feel I have:

a) Increased my business contacts and leads exponentially – between the networking events, face time with people I have been working with, and over all hustling around the USA in 2 months, I have built up a new long list of business contacts and ways to work new angles

b) Got some quality time with family – Most of my family is in Florida, and I was able to spent about a week and a half with parents, visit to grandma and the uncles, as well as cousin Alicia in Orlando. Even squeezed in a day trip in NYC with Uncle Bill. I didn’t get to see my sister in Milwaukee, or my cousins in Vermont…but hey…..

c) Missed out on some old friends – getting scolded a bit from some friends that I didn’t get to visit while in USA….jeeez, I tried my best, I was open about where I was and when…..I made some open invites to some get-togethers….if I lose friends because of this, then I guess maybe they weren’t really a friend?
And it was difficult not to feel like I was using people…..crashing on couches, getting rides from train station to bus station, maybe if I wasn’t a hustling entrepreneur I could budget rental cars and hotels in all those cities I went to…..but its amazing I can even afford the flights and train tickets to all these places. And I would constantly thank, and offer gift, dinner, etc….trying my best….

This was the most stressful part….I guess its because I hate to ask for favors. Hate to not have control… not be able to come and go from a place when I need to or have to. I don’t know many who can…..when you get hungry, tired to go to sleep, or have to go to another event / meeting / get together. And then I will try to connect people, introduce others. In the past, I have been told I should not mix up various groups of friends, because their lifestyles are so far apart it is awkward. I wonder about that still, as I think meeting people from different lifestyles is valuable and important to grow as a person.
I know, I am too sensitive…..

But also taking back my idea to stay in New York City has maybe lost confidence in some of my friends…..I got overexcited, and realized it was going to take a lot more money and time and patience for the sales and business to develop in USA versus staying overseas and developing it.

Life is life, my decision is made. And I have to be selfish, or I will never be happy right?

I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. Bill Cosby

I’m just going to keep on moving forward, I’m still friendly to those I didn’t see, but feel maybe they have discounted our friendship as we didn’t touch base face to face after so long.

But the USA trip was good for business, and for family, so that is what I should focus on, right

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scolded from friends that they didnt get to see you???? man i had the other end of the deal – i feel like I saw too much of you 😉 just kidding man it was good to see you. you will see your friends again. I really like that bill cosby quote – the key to failure is trying to please everybody. man to think i try to do that a lot, please everybody. even simple things like – where do we go to lunch one person is vegeterian, the other doesnt like sandwiches, the next already had mexican food… Read more »


Don’t worry – you don’t owe anyone (in NYC, China, or anywhere else an explanation or an apology for staying/not staying in any one place. Just build your business and don’t waste time. 80/20 rule – always.

Emily Tsang

I got a deep feeling reading your lines about “losing” some old friends because of certain change in life. I also experienced that and felt pretty upset from time to time. But you’re right. Real friends do stay there for you. I tend not to make any unnecessary assumption til I’ve really figured out how my friends see me as a friend. Wellm, at the same time, your post made me smile, as I rarely hear a businessman saying these things. Maybe it’s kind of a stereotyping, I just feel that the majority of Americans tend to be quite individualists… Read more »